Birthday Behavior

Hello my loves! Well today is February 28, 2013..my 21st birthday!! I'm excited not only for this weekend but for this year. Yesterday I wrote a goodbye letter to my 20 year old self..I plan on re-reading the letter 5-10 years from now just to see how far I've come..

I began listening to India Arie "private party" & got extremely emotional! The tears weren't from being sad, they were tears of happiness & gratitude. I just feel so grateful that God has blessed me with another year of life. Another year to grow, learn, smile, laugh, cry, another year to create myself. I am sooo soooo sooo blessed beyond words to have amazing friends and a beautiful (crazy) family. Even though I do not have everything I want & the future is unknown..I feel like I have everything that I need!

Beyonce said it best, "it's very seldom that you're blessed to find your equal"! My equal, my heart, my soul is definitely Courtnii. She is more than my cousin, she is my angel. (Here comes more tears) God has definitely favored me by placing her in my life. I can't stress how much she means to me but I do know that not everyone is fortunate enough to have a connection like this.

I've came a long way, fought through numerous obstacles, & blossomed from a broken, insecure girl into a beautiful, humble person that I am today. Thank you for every birthday wish, it means the world to me. I wish you all peace, love, & happiness. Stay vibrant. 

HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO ME!! 

  

Speak to me Rob..

Hello love bugs! It is almost Valentine's Day! For all you lovely couples out there, make sure you guys enjoy EACH OTHER on Thursday..don't get caught up w. the gifts! For all my sexy singles, just take the day to dwell on how beautiful you are..immerse yourself in self love! But enough of the preaching!

If you follow me on Twitter (@dezzyamore) then you know I am constantly RT'ing relationship expert Rob Hill. Well he has released a mixtape just in time for Valentine's Day. This isn't the typical mixtape..it is spoken word. I promise after you listen to this man & allow his words to massage your temple, you will have a new view on relationships. So do me & yourself a favor & download "The Heart Healer" below. I love you guys! Be blessed & as always stay vibrant :)

The Heart Healer Mixtape

New Video

Hello my loves! I know it has been awhile but please bare with me, I will start posting more often! Ya girl is just getting her life together at the moment! But if any of you guys are fans of the show "Braxton Family Values" then you know Tamar Braxton very well! I've always loved her..maybe because she's a pisces too. Mhmm. She has stated many times how she wants to release her own album..well I guess Tamar wish is coming true! 

She released the video for her single "love & war" & she is definitely giving me life with this video! I love how she kept it simple & classy. She looked gorgeous & that fine chocolate man playing her boo made the video even more delicious! LOL! Check out the video below & leave me some comments! Love you all, stay blessed! 

Romance or Bromance?

Have "bromances" made romance nonexistent? A friend of mine told me she recently went on a double date from hell! The two guys ignored her & the other lady the entire night! The two guys spent the night exchanging "funny pics" from Instagram, tweeting about their lives, & totally being nonchalant to the fact that they were on a date!! 

I personally do not double date for numerous reasons, it's just way too awkward for me. But what happened to a guy taking a lady out, giving her his undivided attention, & making her feel like the queen she is? Is that gone forever?? 

I guess the terms "M.O.B" & "bros over hoes" killed romance. Guys rather put their friends over their lady! Crazy right? A woman should never feel like she has to compete with the homie! A date should be an opportunity for the two people to connect & get to know each other! Not with the guy chatting with his "brah" about the naked chick on Instagram!

I hope men get it together & get it together fast! These queens aren't going to take this foolishness for long. Will your "bro" keep you warm at night, encourage you with a kiss when you feel like the world is against you, cook for you, massage you, be that gem on your arm? No they will not! So men please start appreciating women for what we are. Respect is the minimum! I love you guys, stay blessed! 

Check please!

Imagine going on a date, something simple like dinner & a movie. You get to the restaurant with him & when the bill comes he pulls out a $20 bill. You start to get a little confused because the total was $40.00! You immediately begin to think "does he expect me to pay?!" & sadly he does. 

So you guys proceed to the movies & you remain optimistic about the night. You think "maybe he's short on cash, but he'll definitely pay for the movie." But of course he does NOT! At the end of the night, he reaches over for a kiss. *Pause* Girl you better not allow him to put his non paying lips on you! Something similar like this happened to me & let me tell you I was shocked! 

I know you're probably thinking that there's no hope for us, especially since a guy can be comfortable enough not to pay for the date. Get that thought out of your head! Not all men are that way, I promise. Ladies you have to start holding ourself to a higher standard. If you want to be treated like a queen, you have to begin to act like one. I am not saying that it is our fault that men choose not to pay, shame on them not us! Has opening doors, pulls out chairs, & paying for dates gone forever?!?

If something like this ever happens to you, I advice you to politely proceed with the date & never return his phone calls again! You can let him know that you were bothered by his actions or you can just leave him guessing! He will figure it out eventually. I love you guys! Stay blessed! 

She does that too?!

I have been getting requests to do a post about women & porn! At first I thought to myself "no freakin way am I putting that on my blog" but then I got over it! Sex is natural, everyone does it! 

Men may be surprised to know that women do indeed watch porn! Wait what? Yes it's true. Are men turned on or off by knowing this? Would a woman that is considered "wifey material" sit in the bed & watch porn with her significant other? Mhmm. (keep reading)

Do men find women that watch porn more attractive? Why wouldn't they? Men usually watch it when they want to get aroused, be entertained, or just to forget about the stressful day they had. (keep reading)

Women watch porn for the same reasons as men! But we just don't like to admit it! We live in a society where labels are cherished more than the actual character of a person. These days just by posing a certain way in a pic, you are labeled as a "hoe". Is admitting to watching porn something only "hoes" do? Absolutely not. 

Just like men, we want to know what position, what technique, & what sounds will keep our mate wanting more. Simply put, women want to be entertained too. Porn kills boredom..LOL. So if your significant other suggests that you two watch porn together, consider it. What do you have to lose? Oh yea nothing, except your clothes.

Episode number one!

Well, well, well! Hi guys :) I know I've been gone for awhile but I have a stupid thing called a job now :( but good news is that I finally uploaded our first vlog! Yes yes yes! Episode 1 is complete. Check out the link below!