Sell out!

You're walking in the mall & see a black guy with a white, asian, or mexican woman..immediately you & your friend begin to rant about the couple. The conversation is a lot of  "look at him with that white woman! He couldn't spend his money on a black woman?! He should have a black girlfriend because his mom is black!" Sounds familiar?? (Keep reading)

Early as the age of 2 it is instilled in black women that we are ENTITLED to black men. Yes our moms, grandmas, & aunties made us believe that the beautiful black man is exclusively ours! Why is that?? Is it because as slaves the African families were purposely torn apart & now that we are "free" we want to reclaim what is rightfully ours? I'm not going to sit here & act as if I was never that girl with my friends in the mall frowning at that couple, I did when I was younger. But the Dezzy today is mature enough to have let go of those negative feelings about black men dating outside their race. As black women, we need to cease this belief that black men belong only to us. Love is love despite color, gender, or skin tone. (keep reading)

Even though, I do not "hate" interracial couples, I do have a huge issue when black men date other races & begin to disrespect black women. You know those dudes who say "black women are too ghetto, black women aren't pretty enough, black women are only about drama, black women aren't classy"..blah blah. Wake up & know that not every black woman carries herself as a hoodrat or a low class hooker. There are plenty of beautiful black women who have it together but men just have to WORK a little harder to get those women. I understand & respect that everyone has their own preference when it comes to choosing a mate BUT know that just because you like apples doesn't mean you have the right to criticize oranges. *Hair flip* (keep reading)

I often hear women saying that black men who date outside their race simply can't handle a strong black woman. I don't think that is true because ALL women exemplify strength. To those beautiful black women who have an issue with "our men" dating outside the race, I will say don't knock it til you try it. Yes date someone outside your race, you never know what you could learn from experiencing life with someone who has a different perception of the world. Open your mind & know that black men aren't the only men you can date. I understand that most black women think that there is nothing more beautiful, sacred, & powerful than black love & that might be true but..Love is love. Stay blessed :)